我想,我是一个不适合移民的人。偏偏我又嫁给了一个住在地球另一边的人。原本我以为长期住在外国会很OK,毕竟是个我熟悉的国家和环境。但是,最近越来越觉得”It’s not OK!”。我还是比较喜欢住在新加坡。

看到有些嫁给了老外的新加坡朋友,一住就是五年、十年。两三年回家一次,过年过节也呆在国外。这样,我做不到。尤其是过年,不管是多难拿假期,飞机票多贵,我拼了命也要回家吃那一顿年夜饭。不管其他时间人在何方,过年,我绝对是属于家人属于新加坡的。今年回家结婚,刚巧碰上中秋节,大家一起在家里吃不同口味的月饼,剥柚子,饮绿茶,我过后还童心未泯到楼下和住在这一带的小朋友一同提灯笼,好不开心。

单单是今年到现在为止,我已经回家三趟,十二月碰上好朋友结婚,我又将回来一趟,2009年来回总共四次。叫我久久不能呼吸到这里的空气,品尝家乡的美食,和家人在一起,和朋友吃饭相聚,自由使用新加坡式英语,观看无厘头的电视节目,我觉得很难受。

所以,我喜欢每几个月往新加坡跑。家里唯一不好就是天气太热,我很容易疲倦,还会引发我的偏头痛。但是怎么说,家里住惯了,这里还是我最舒服最自在的地方。

回来吗?我们也想。尤其时我,特别想。时机成熟时,我们肯定会。

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9 Comments on “家”

  1. Annabel Says:

    Why don’t you move back if R doesn’t mind? He’ll find a job easily in Singapore. Just don’t tell my mum. She’s been trying so hard to get me back to Singapore but I’m not turning back since my sweet escape 9 years ago!

  2. tintedglasses Says:

    Hello babe, R’s mum is elderly and poorly so it’s not right for him to leave her now. We both want to move back to Singapore eventually. I think the most important thing is knowing where’s the best place to live and where you’ll be happy. For me, I think I’ll be happier in Singapore.

  3. Annabel Says:

    I agree, though my mum isn’t so understanding. It’ll be a lifelong battle, I suspect. I assume R’s mum isn’t open to moving to Singapore?

    • tintedglasses Says:

      No Belle, her condition is very dire and she’s afraid of flying. But even if she’s not, she really isn’t well enough to go anywhere. At the end of the day, your Mum loves you and would want you to be happy. I’m sure she will come to understand why you prefer to live away and you can work out some sort of a compromise.

  4. Annabel Says:

    Poor thing. Hopefully it will all work out soon and you can move back to Singapore.

  5. Ms ARGH Says:

    Sometimes, along the way, we have flickles of ‘second thots’… sometimes, it comes and then off it disappears… sometimes it comes it stays but ‘I will keep it aside’ for I am thinking the best alternative win/win situation for the happiness of the maximum. Sometimes, we just have to accept that it is about time I leave certain stuff behind and move along and on … as we move from a phase of life to another, we have gains and we have losses… sometimes, in order to maximise our gains, we need to experience the losses… so how can we compensate ourselves so that we can optimise our gains and thus, the losses would not seem so harsh. The saddest thing would be when we try to minimise our losses, we unintentionally also minimise our gains… it may sound cryptic … but we can always talk abt this privately… anytime.

  6. izchan Says:

    its strange the way we are different.
    we think of the place we were born in as our home.
    but in reality, home is where the heart is.

    Its quite obvious you are home sick.
    and home is where your friends and family are.
    I have often asked my friends who have married abroad the same question.
    are you going to be fine with being alone in another place.
    It need not be another country, it just needs to be far enough from where you are comfortable with.

    my wife and I have been thinking along the same line.
    but instead of staying, we are looking to move away.
    my home is where my wife is.
    as long as she is there, I am content.
    my dad does not seem to like it, nor does my sister.
    but at the end of the day, its what I feel comfortable most.

    you have my prayers.
    hope you find your answer soon.

  7. TrishieKoh Says:

    Oh C, I never knew you felt like that…you must miss home. Hope things work out for you.

  8. tintedglasses Says:

    Thank you everyone for your comments and advice. At the end of the day, it should be like izchan said, “what one feels the most comfortable with”. I am still trying to arrive at that.


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