Comments on: On caning

By: Jeano

Jeano — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 11:59:02 +0000

what a controversial topic this is proving to be. Personally, i think parenting styles really depend on individual beliefs and philosophy. There are no absolutes or fool-proof instructions on how to raise the perfect child. I can’t say a spank now and then is considered barbaric. But as long as there’s consistency in dealing out punishment/incentives, fairness, and open communication between parent and child, it er, shouldn’t go too far wrong.

By: Annabel

Annabel — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 10:46:55 +0000

I’ve to agree with Roger. I think physical punishment is barbaric and backward. Most parents use Time Out these days and that’s definitely what psychologists recommend during parenting sessions.

By: Roger

Roger — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 20:02:44 +0000

Illegal to hit children here,Chen.
Kids here threaten to report their parents to Childline or Social Services if they are disciplined.
Praise child for doing things you want to encourage, ignore the undesired behaviours to avoid reinforcing them through attention (yes,a LOT harder to do than to say-lots of gritting of teeth)and use brief and if necessary repeated confinements to allow child to realise that they will not be rewarded for bad behaviour. Most of all, engage with your child.Gifts never equate to time in the long run.And be consistent. Beat/assuage guilt with gifts is not helpful.

By: shir

shir — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 14:09:44 +0000

with regards to both of your parenting related posts…i personally believe that most parents want to bring their child up right, and they truly try their best, but oftentimes they don’t know how to do it, and honestly, i don’t think there’s a “right” way in child-rearing.